tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6566277284811091148.post6754302373571896142..comments2023-04-04T09:04:49.899-07:00Comments on ideas I'm kickin' around: A Difficult Topicemellehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11455310430841712576noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6566277284811091148.post-23883686647583655622017-10-19T12:50:51.032-07:002017-10-19T12:50:51.032-07:00Thank you for reading and commenting here, Daughte...Thank you for reading and commenting here, Daughter of Milky Coffee! ;)<br /><br />Mommy was definitely a strong one. I miss her. I don't tend to consider myself a writer, so writing the monologue was pretty tough. Plus, I'm mostly lazy, which is why I wanted to write about jumping. But this piece has definitely been impactful, so I'm glad the instructor forced me to go deeper. Thank emellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11455310430841712576noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6566277284811091148.post-39657123599662456042017-10-16T00:16:05.337-07:002017-10-16T00:16:05.337-07:00This is fantastic. I love the transition in ages,...This is fantastic. I love the transition in ages,and the strength of your mother's words. Cynthia @lattesdotter11Cynthia Whitehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14419481965102748608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6566277284811091148.post-39657111057122853952016-10-14T17:29:13.127-07:002016-10-14T17:29:13.127-07:00That is weird. I think it has to do with the type ...That is weird. I think it has to do with the type and extent of abuse, and the type and extent of healing that the survivor experiences. I'm blessed in that Mommy believed us and made it stop soon enough for us to heal and forgive and be in a place to talk about it.<br /><br />Grandpa was a monster, but only at night, and only under the influence of alcohol. He may have been a good father andemellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11455310430841712576noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6566277284811091148.post-19834341474663829382016-10-14T16:13:18.507-07:002016-10-14T16:13:18.507-07:00They dynamics of abuse are just so weird. I have a...They dynamics of abuse are just so weird. I have a friend whose father used to abuse her and years later as an adult when she told her brother he said, "Well, except for that, he was a really great dad, right?"halfa1000mileshttp://www.halfa1000miles.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6566277284811091148.post-54897400164238577842014-04-13T20:12:58.898-07:002014-04-13T20:12:58.898-07:00Carole, I never knew about your abuse, but I am SO...Carole, I never knew about your abuse, but I am SO GLAD you were able to tell Mommy about it, and that her threat to my Monster carried over for our first niece. No idea. I am so blessed to have had HER as my Mommy, and I am so grateful to all of the folks along the way who helped me heal, as well as to this blogging community that has encouraged me to post this. Thank you for this response. emellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11455310430841712576noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6566277284811091148.post-47193755540264768112014-04-13T18:49:42.502-07:002014-04-13T18:49:42.502-07:00You are so right. Your mother believed you and tha...You are so right. Your mother believed you and that is so important. She also took the bull by the horns and stopped the abuse. Mommy gets an A for sure.<br /><br />She also believed me. I was over 20 when I told her about my abuse at 4 or 5 years old. My mother still does not believe me. she says it's all in my head. Anyway, I will always be grateful for our talks that helped me so much Carolenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6566277284811091148.post-6308734165592256902014-04-12T11:52:26.361-07:002014-04-12T11:52:26.361-07:00I give Mommy an A because as soon as she knew what...I give Mommy an A because as soon as she knew what was happening, she made it STOP. For all of us. Had she prosecuted him, it would only have hurt the surviving family. I know this for a FACT, because she ended up killed by a driver under some influence, and had we prosecuted that person, it wouldn't have brought Mommy back. Sometimes living in your guilt is enough. I feel that way both emellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11455310430841712576noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6566277284811091148.post-54750211241187926022014-04-12T11:38:03.907-07:002014-04-12T11:38:03.907-07:00You wobbled. You put it on your blog. You posted. ...You wobbled. You put it on your blog. You posted. It's done. Yay you. <br />Yay to Sis who came to your defense. <br />B for effort to Mom who said "No more" but could have punished the shit for being the predator he already proved himself to be. (My own mother, in a similar situation, gets a fat F from me.)<br />I'm twice your age but still to this day wrapping my head around Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6566277284811091148.post-18971224551971760582014-04-12T05:26:03.103-07:002014-04-12T05:26:03.103-07:00I still have the bear, but the only dress she has ...I still have the bear, but the only dress she has is the one Mommy helped ME make on her sewing machine when I was, what, six? I wish I had the other clothes she made for it. :/emellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11455310430841712576noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6566277284811091148.post-51387132951583772462014-04-12T05:24:18.469-07:002014-04-12T05:24:18.469-07:00I guess I'll use your name in future posts. I...I guess I'll use your name in future posts. I mostly kept this one as it was written for performance. But I think YOU may have identified yourself here, even if only as "InnerHippie" - thank you for having given me permission. And thank you (again) for being my protector all those years. I love you.emellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11455310430841712576noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6566277284811091148.post-90852803812973864422014-04-11T21:32:11.003-07:002014-04-11T21:32:11.003-07:00I thought you were gonna say my name. I gave you p...I thought you were gonna say my name. I gave you permission. I'm surprised that you didn't but it's okay anyway. It's still an important topic and I'm glad you posted it.InnerHippiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13940408595710918348noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6566277284811091148.post-14978947170067261992014-04-11T21:25:00.855-07:002014-04-11T21:25:00.855-07:00Nice touch with the picture. I love that Mommy mad...Nice touch with the picture. I love that Mommy made your teddy bear a matching Easter dress. She got us like no one else.InnerHippiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13940408595710918348noreply@blogger.com